The One Thing Every Bride Forgets
If your left hand recently got a little heavier and you gained the title "bride," chances are you're really excited...and a little stressed.
When I first got engaged, I kept wishing the day would come already. I was pretty confident that I had this wedding planning thing under control. I work in the wedding industry and have planned two styled shoots, so how much more difficult could a wedding be to plan?
It turns out it's a lot more difficult.
The thing about weddings is that you have to plan a lot of things around a lot of people and spend a lot of money. Did you notice that repeating "a lot"? You'll find that's a pretty common thing to say about everything concerning weddings.
Between the invitations, the dress, the rentals, the alterations of the dress, the flowers, the photographer (which is the first thing I booked and the top of my priority list), the wedding party gifts, the food, and the every single thing you can think of that you'd have to pay for, and you end up with a whole lot of stress and an empty pocket.
I get it, trust me, I get it. It is really stressful to think about all of these things and wonder how the heck you're going to pay for it all. You want it all to be perfect, the amazing wedding on your Pinterest board or that wedding binder you've had since you were nine. I completely understand, because I'm right there with you.
But, do you know what you forgot? The most important thing that every bride ultimately forgets?
At the end of this big day you're planning, you get to go home with the love of your life.
That's right. After all the planning and spending and stressing and worrying, the most important part of the day is that you are marrying your best friend. This day is a day of celebration. You're getting married! Stop thinking about all that money you have to spend and remember why this is happening. This day that is stressing you out is meant to be a celebration of the love between you and your favorite person.
So, let's take a step back, put that binder away, close your mind off from thinking about the wedding, and just enjoy some time with that person. Take a little time to remember why you're doing this. Remember why it's worth all the stress and the money. At the end of this, you need to be glad that you went through all that and ready to start a marriage together. If you're overstressed, that's not a good way to start a marriage!
Some good things to do together while you're taking a break from wedding planning:
- Play a game
- Watch a movie
- Go on a hike
- Cook a meal together
- Talk about what you love about each other
- Go get ice cream
- Go swimming
- Anything else you love to do together!
I hope you take this is a sign to put away your wedding plans and take some time to love on each other. Don't forget that this is going to be a marriage, not just a wedding. That deserves some planning, too!