5 People Who Can Help You Plan Your Wedding
One of my biggest struggles when planning my wedding was delegation. AKA I didn’t know how to give tasks to other people, so everything was on me. I bet you are struggling with the same thing. Am I right?
This is a really common problem. Brides have all of these visions of how they want everything to be, so they don’t want to give up a task to someone who probably won’t do it right (girl, I GET IT). But the thing is, you HAVE to delegate or you’ll go crazy. Trust me. I am a control freak 2 wing 1 on the Enneagram and I am telling you that you can’t do it all on your own. Not only that, but you shouldn’t have to.
Here are FIVE entire groups of people that you should be taking advantage of during this time. And I’m not saying that in a bad way; I mean, these people are here to help, so take their help!
ONE // Your partner
Yeah, that’s right. It’s his wedding, too, so he should be doing some of the work. When I was planning my own wedding, whenever I would come across something that my now-husband could do, I’d command-x (cut) that task from my list and command-v (paste) it onto a list I created for him on Google Docs. Then I’d send a sweet message to him asking him to take care of it (do this now please, thank you, love youuu).
TWO // Your bridesmaids
When your best friends said yes to your cute proposal, they were saying yes to more than just accepting the vanilla candle and “bridesmaid” mug. A bridesmaids job is literally to help the bride and to keep her from being too stressed. And that applies to the entire planning process, not just the day of the wedding. Don’t feel like you have to make these decisions all by yourself—ask your girls! For one, I’m sure they have opinions and would probably enjoy making plans about your wedding. And two, they most likely know you and what you like, so they’re the perfect people to ask.
THREE // Your family
When I was planning my wedding, multiple family members told me to just “tell them what they can do to help!” This wedding is big for them, too. Their sweet daughter, grand daughter, niece, or whatever, is getting married and they’re welcoming a new man to the family. So put them to work! Have your mom address envelopes with her pretty handwriting (and save your hand from aching after writing hundreds of names) or ask your aunt to take charge of the flowers. They love you and want this day to be special for you, so let them help make it that way.
FOUR // Your future family
Your in-laws-to-be are a part of this day, too. My father-in-law built benches for our wedding and my mother-in-law and her husband built the arch. Those were two huge things that I could cross off my list and all I had to do was ask. These people are about to be your family too (and they’re your future husband’s family), so let them be a part of it and make it a little easier on yourself at the same time.
FIVE // Your friends
Unfortunately, you can’t have every single friend in your wedding party, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t still your friends. They probably still want to help, and who knows? They might have a certain connection or ability that you need to cross something off your list. Or they may just be extremely helpful and generous like some of our friends were when planning stuff for our wedding day. If they’re your friend, then don’t be afraid to ask them for help. The worst thing they can do is say no.
Planning a wedding is hard and you shouldn’t have to do it all by yourself. Even if you’re a control freak (like me), you can still take some things from that long list of yours and give them to someone else. Your wedding shouldn’t be a burden, it should be this big, fun, amazing thing that you look forward to. Let people help you so that you can be excited rather than stressed (or at least less stressed).
I hope this helped you feel like you can delegate some of those tasks on that endless list of yours! Happy wedding planning, friend!